The year is 2011. I’m at home in Lagos, Nigeria. I feel excited about the year to come. I always feel excited about a new year, there is always a chance for more of everything, that’s what I like about it. I’m thinking about 2010, the people I met, what I learnt, what I (still) didn’t learn. 2010 was fantastic, I feel grateful for it in a magnanimous way. I’m reflective, I always am on January 1st. There were bombs in the capital of Nigeria, Abuja, last night. This happened whilst I was at a NYE party in Lagos enjoying fireworks and champagne after excessive prayers. We do religion excessively in Nigeria. Early this morning I prayed more with some imams. I did that despite that I had too much champagne last night and although I’m not religious. I’m culturally programmed to prefer praying at home than at a party. There were bombs in Alexandria too. There was good news too though, Brazil’s first female president took office today. This is good newsfor women and for those of us that get excited about news that balances the world and of course for those that recognize the salience in Rousseff’s presidency. Hope you all had a blissful first day of 2011. I don’t have any resolutions this year, none that aren’t ongoing. Like for example these seven.
1. Learn how to listen to your intuition
Don’t be afraid to listen to your gut even if it seems to be saying outrageous stuff. Listen to the signs that tell you how you feel about things; graciousness lies in the connection between intuition and action.
2. Learn how to accept your looks
Everyone has days when they are dissatisfied with their looks. It’s part of human nature, often as a sign that we are neglecting either our mental or physical health, to occasionally feel unattractive. Accepting your looks, is a different matter however, and a trait, which will do more for you than any magic potion or surgery can.
3. Learn how to take care of your body
Your body is your temple; it is the capsule of your soul and mind. Communicate with it, by observing what makes you feel healthy, and strong. Remember that a body, which does not exercise, is a body not fulfilling its function.
4. Learn how to manage your finances
Whether you can afford a professional bookkeeper or not, staying on top of your personal in- and outgoings is crucial to your confidence. As an independent person you came into this world alone, and to be frank, you will leave it alone. Don’t leave something as important as your finances in the hands of another person.
5. Learn how to be kind
As much as we are independent, we are also co-dependent. We need other people in all elements of life, from daily service transactions to friends that we can share our lives with. Kindness is therefore a key to a happy life. As you do upon others, so will be done upon you.
6. Learn how to enjoy sex
Female sexuality is one of the most misunderstood topics of our time. There still seems to be this idea that women enjoy sex less than men. It’s easier to fall into believing that kind of myth if you don’t claim ownership of your body, nobody else can dictate what should turn you on or not.
7. Learn how to communicate with God
Whatever form of spirituality you choose, seek to use it fully to develop an individual relationship with god. Most religions are centered around the masculine. Therefore, seek also feminine attributes to your faith, learn how to use and connect with the divine, strong feminine. Even if you are a man.